We can't help but compare ourselves to others; it's literally how we know where we stand in the world. If we can do certain things or if we belong in a certain group or place. People say that you shouldn't compare or judge others or yourself. But it is hardwired into our brains; it's biological, a social skill to keep us safe. But at the same time, it can be the detriment to our happiness and well-being. So how do we overcome something that is inherently human nature?

First off, our brains are an amazing organ whose solo job is to keep us alive. Knowing is the first step.

Do what makes you happy and stop oversharing. No one else is going to chase your dreams for you. You have to start doing what makes you happy, not what makes the people around you happy or proud. Because you can't do it for others, and external modifications like praise. You have to do it for yourself. You have to be content doing it even if no one else in the world sees you doing it or your accomplishments other than you.

I keep in mind that you can't change someone; you can only show them the way and hope they go down the right path. I'm not perfect, far from it, but I try. I reflect on my state of mind, my actions, and the emotions I feel. I question why I feel a certain way, what the cause is, and where it comes from. I also strive to improve myself, both physically and mentally. However, lately, I've noticed that my body needs more attention than it's been getting.

It's not your fault. It's not your fault that you can't get any work done because the TV is more interesting. It's not your fault you can't read; TikTok is more entertaining. It's not your fault that you are unhealthy; the bag of chips is too enticing. Some people would say it is your fault, but I'm saying it's not. Our brains want to do the easy thing. We want fun and relaxation. So what are we to do when there are all these distractions and enticements?

The self-help space can be toxic but also damaging when you get advice that doesn't work for you. There is a huge divide between neurotypical people and neurodivergent's. Knowing which one you are will help you consider if an approach to bettering yourself and your life is productive or even viable. So, what can we do to better ourselves without damaging ourselves?

The way I see it is that first, we need to find out what kind of person we are and how we work. Knowing if you're neurodivergent or neurotypical can help a lot.

How to read more and read better. This is going one of the top goals in our lives; most people want to read more or wish they read more, we want to obtain more knowledge. We think that reading will better ourselves, help us in some way. And it can, but I also say if you hate reading, it's a slog, super hard like pulling teeth, then you might be reading the wrong things. So how can we read more and better?

If you ever sacrifice the internal for the external, you are going to make yourself miserable. We think that external things will bring us happiness. And it's not our fault; we have all been lied to and tricked into thinking this way. Through capitalism, advertising, and commerce, these things make our world work. Without a social system, we dive into chaos. The only thing is, if we ever figure out that we don't need stuff to be happy, then the whole system collapses.

It's interesting how we think that if a certain number of people like our work, we will be happy. We think that if I wear these clothes and put on this perfume, I will attract the perfect person into our lives. We think that if I have this, then this will happen in my life. But the truth is that advertisements are empty promises. If we look closely at them, they don't promise anything; they are a future endeavor that doesn't exist.

We live in a day where we have an endless amount of choices. So many, in fact, that it can become overwhelming and debilitating to a point. Just this idea for the younger generation to pick a career path is beyond overwhelming compared to millennials. When we were kids, you could choose a doctor, lawyer, electrician, etc. In today's job market, you can be all those things and more—a race car Uber driver, a copywriter that only reviews baby products, to a person that films themselves sleeping. It's stupid and great and also a paradox because the more choices we have, the more we feel like we made the wrong choice when there are so many options.

This paradox of choice is this idea that the more choices you have, the better, right?

First, we have to come to the realization that life is unfair; people are dealt different cards, and some are born with more resources at their disposal from the get-go. This includes different genetics, like physical health and mental brain structures, financial, or even location.

Optimistic nihilism is the realisation that there is a lack of meaning in the world and universe. This is liberating because there is no greater meaning in life, no greater purpose; there is no cosmic plan for the life's path that you must take. So, you cannot go wrong; there isn't a certain path you must follow or a set of beliefs you must attain. We are the ones who create our own path. We get to choose how to live our own lives.

And since there is no meaning to life and the universe, you must consider yourself very lucky in this world. Because your life is not fated to be a certain way.